Well, everybody during his growing-up process reach the age to realize, life is more liveable and better, sharing it with an other person. Someone starts to look for the suitable person very young, someone needs more time to get started, but finally everyone finds his/her "other-side" and they live happy ever after. It's the fairy tale version, but what about in real life?
Normally the age 18-19, can be a suitable age to get your life shared with someone and know what does the expression: "I love you" mean. I don't think a girl even a boy (sorry boys) can understand what does it really mean when you open your heart to the other sex and let somebody to know you, both physically and mentally. So you have the right age, but not yet the suitable man or woman. What to do? How to find the girl who was born to love only you: Who would be your wife? And vice versa. One thing for sure: you have to go among people, you have to visit communities where there's the possibility of any communication.
After stepping over the "hunting-time" let see the case when you're together. In the beginning it can be a bit embarrassing to get to know each other, first of course you want to show your best, but on the other hand you both would like to get closer and closer to each other showing your true side sometimes. The most beautiful thing is the first 2months of relationship, people can have in their lives.
This is the time when you're shy you're just trying to do everything well, it's the "dream-time" when you imagine living with that man forever, getting old and having at least eleven children creating a football team, walking and speaking a lot, planning ( of course it's hidden from the other) and during this time it's revealed whether you suit or not. After 2 months you can get a picture of the other's personality but it's of course not the guarantee of staying in the same state forever. We can't close off the fact that we're continuously changing even if you have to conform to someone else...
Normally the age 18-19, can be a suitable age to get your life shared with someone and know what does the expression: "I love you" mean. I don't think a girl even a boy (sorry boys) can understand what does it really mean when you open your heart to the other sex and let somebody to know you, both physically and mentally. So you have the right age, but not yet the suitable man or woman. What to do? How to find the girl who was born to love only you: Who would be your wife? And vice versa. One thing for sure: you have to go among people, you have to visit communities where there's the possibility of any communication.
After stepping over the "hunting-time" let see the case when you're together. In the beginning it can be a bit embarrassing to get to know each other, first of course you want to show your best, but on the other hand you both would like to get closer and closer to each other showing your true side sometimes. The most beautiful thing is the first 2months of relationship, people can have in their lives.
This is the time when you're shy you're just trying to do everything well, it's the "dream-time" when you imagine living with that man forever, getting old and having at least eleven children creating a football team, walking and speaking a lot, planning ( of course it's hidden from the other) and during this time it's revealed whether you suit or not. After 2 months you can get a picture of the other's personality but it's of course not the guarantee of staying in the same state forever. We can't close off the fact that we're continuously changing even if you have to conform to someone else...
5 comments:
In my opinion, find real love is very complicated and hard. When you fall in love at first time, you think that he/she will be with you forever...but it is very rare.. You live trought your first big disappointment, but it is normal...you have to get some experience. Not too many "first 2 months" and more, but a few to use it in your later relationships. It can helps you to find and keep your love of your life!
I think you are a lucky girl anyway ;]
Great blog entry, I guess you have a huge amount of experience in this issue. But I think this "first 2 months" can be prolonged if you are honest towards each other and talk about problems instead of escaping from a relationship.
In my opinion it's hard to find "the real love".
How do you know that you find a real love?
First of all what we understand under real love is also different.
I think everybody wants and needs love, but it's ouside of our control.
You can never know which partner is your "real love", you just hope to find him/her as early as you can. But I think it's only the time and the shared life that can say it's able to last long or not.
You are right,at the begining we are try to get to know the other, find out the good and also the bad features. And after this you can decide weather you want this relationship or not. But this time is always different. Maybe 2 months as you said, maybe after a year you realize that this is not what you want, or maybe after a week you feel that he is you Mr. Big or lets say your MR. Darcy. :)
But the point is to find him.
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