Well, after going through 2 months, the relationship can turn into 2 ways:
1. Your boy/girlfriend is a kind of man who really wants you to be together and to create common life with you.
2. Your boy/girlfriend is too young or just a childish thinker who cannot imagine sharing life with another person and would like to maintain his/her individual life and being with you is just a good spare time that he/she can enjoy.
If your partner is the first one, I can say that you can have a great possibility to live happily and in this case your personality and also the other's can develope and if you care with the other and learn the simple rules of a relationship you can do your best and your life can be easier.
As for the rules you should know and keep:
1. Respect your partner
2. Be honest with the other ( you can have secrets it's okay, but sharing your personal things of your life makes the other more honest and opened which is good for both of you)
3. Respect and keep your partner's seperateness (try to create an intimate sphere for the other and due to this your seperateness can remain too)
4. Don't be afraid telling your problems
5. Try to accept and tolerate the bad side of the other ( you have to admit that you have a bad side too which your partner have to live together too)
6. Talk talk talk ( Silence does NOT bring peace between you)
These are seemingly simply rules or they're really are, but keeping them is a hard exercise and it needs time to learn them, but with this end in view you ought not to have so many problems.
So, in the other case, when your darling is a childish thinker whose life is just a great play without any consequences and any responsibility your common future looks black.
The good news is that you can have great fun, you can have good experiences (when your aims are the same) however you need more, this boy/girl is not the suitable person for you, so the search (the hunting) continues....
But DO NOT GIVE UP!!! It's the most important thing. It's really true that hope dies last. But it's also true that when you don't think about finding someone and you calm down accepting the fact that you have to live a period of your life alone, it's the time when love arrives!!!
1. Your boy/girlfriend is a kind of man who really wants you to be together and to create common life with you.
2. Your boy/girlfriend is too young or just a childish thinker who cannot imagine sharing life with another person and would like to maintain his/her individual life and being with you is just a good spare time that he/she can enjoy.
If your partner is the first one, I can say that you can have a great possibility to live happily and in this case your personality and also the other's can develope and if you care with the other and learn the simple rules of a relationship you can do your best and your life can be easier.
As for the rules you should know and keep:
1. Respect your partner
2. Be honest with the other ( you can have secrets it's okay, but sharing your personal things of your life makes the other more honest and opened which is good for both of you)
3. Respect and keep your partner's seperateness (try to create an intimate sphere for the other and due to this your seperateness can remain too)
4. Don't be afraid telling your problems
5. Try to accept and tolerate the bad side of the other ( you have to admit that you have a bad side too which your partner have to live together too)
6. Talk talk talk ( Silence does NOT bring peace between you)
These are seemingly simply rules or they're really are, but keeping them is a hard exercise and it needs time to learn them, but with this end in view you ought not to have so many problems.
So, in the other case, when your darling is a childish thinker whose life is just a great play without any consequences and any responsibility your common future looks black.
The good news is that you can have great fun, you can have good experiences (when your aims are the same) however you need more, this boy/girl is not the suitable person for you, so the search (the hunting) continues....
But DO NOT GIVE UP!!! It's the most important thing. It's really true that hope dies last. But it's also true that when you don't think about finding someone and you calm down accepting the fact that you have to live a period of your life alone, it's the time when love arrives!!!
6 comments:
It was a very good writing. I think it is very hard to be in a relationship but when you get to know each other you get a sight why he is doing things. And when you think you know the other the best you can, you recognze: he can show you more new things....:)The best you can do just love him and don't give it up how you mentioned... So Ildi, don't give it up:)
Thank you Lilla your comment, I'm glad that you liked it! As you also said it's a hard work, but later on you can realize that it worth all your work!:)
It is really worth, believe me: We have been in love since 2005. I think we live for each other... :)
But for patience and mutual understanding it wouldn't work.
I do like your wirting! ;)
I think, there are no rules in relationships... When you aren't treated as you think you must be, you just leave? When you are hurt, you hurt back? You can't formulate a relationship into rules, even though it's a very frequent human property to do this. Love is a very simple term and a way of expressing yourself, so we don't need to control or regulate it.
Anyway, I like your blog!
Sorry but I can't agree with you, as all our lives are about conformity, and it's true in relationships too. We need rules to keep (or even not to o keep) but they help us to facilitate the process of conformation. And if I'm hurt I don't hurt back, (only if I'm that kind of person) but a rule (respect the other)can help us to avoid it. And it's not about regulating I think it's really about facilitation of each other's life.
I really like you writing Ildi! And I'm sorry to find it so late. I think you are right, we have to live our lives by rules, and it's true for the relationships too. But of course these our unwritten rules and you don't have to discuss them with your partner. I think you just feel how you should behave. You respect your boyfriend, discuss your problems with him...etc. Because without these things it will not work. And I think mosly people don't even notice that they keep these rules, just do it, because they love their partner. I hope you understand my opinion. It's a little bit cloudy. :)
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